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Victim
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Survivor
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Thriver
|
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Doesn’t
deserve nice things or trying for the "good life."
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Struggling
for reasons & chance to heal
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Gratitude
for everything in life.
|
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Low self
esteem/shame/unworthy
|
Sees self
as wounded & healing
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Sees self
as an overflowing miracle
|
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Hyper
vigilant
|
Using
tools to learn to relax
|
Gratitude
for new life
|
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Alone
|
Seeking
help
|
Oneness
|
|
Feels
Selfish
|
Deserves
to seek help
|
Proud of
Healthy Self caring
|
|
Damaged
|
Naming
what happened
|
Was
wounded & now healing
|
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Confusion
& numbness
|
Learning
to grieve, grieving past aggrieved trauma
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Grieving
at current losses
|
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Overwhelmed
by past
|
Naming
& grieving what happened
|
Living in
the present
|
|
Hopeless
|
Hopeful
|
Faith in
self & life
|
|
Uses
outer world to hide from self
|
Stays
with emotional pain
|
Understands
that emotional pain will pass & brings new insights
|
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Hides
their story
|
Not
afraid to tell their story to safe people.
|
Beyond
telling their story, but always aware they have created their own healing with
HP
|
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Believes
everyone else is better, stronger, less damaged
|
Comes out
of hiding to hear others & have compassion for them & eventually self
|
Lives
with an open heart for self & others
|
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Often
wounded by unsafe others
|
Learning
how to protect self by share, check, share
|
Protects
self from unsafe others
|
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Places
own needs last
|
Learning
healthy needs (See Healing the Child Within & Gift to Myself)
|
Places
self first realizing that is the only way to function & eventually help
others
|
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Creates
one drama after another
|
See
patterns
|
Creates
peace
|
|
Believes
suffering is the human condition
|
Feeling
some relief, knows they need to continue in recovery
|
Finds joy
in peace
|
|
Serious
all the time
|
Beginning
to laugh
|
Seeing
the humour in life
|
|
Uses
inappropriate humour, including teasing
|
Feels
associated painful feelings instead
|
Uses
healthy humour
|
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Uncomfortable,
numb or angry around toxic people
|
Increasing
awareness of pain & dynamics
|
Healthy
boundaries around toxic people, incl. relatives
|
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Lives in
the past
|
Aware of
patterns
|
Lives in
the Now
|
|
Angry at
religion
|
Understanding
the difference between religion & personal spirituality
|
Enjoys
personal relationship with the God of their understanding
|
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Suspicious
of therapists-- projects
|
Sees
therapist as guide during projections
|
Sees
reality as their projection & owns it.
|
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Needs
people & chemicals to believe they are all right
|
Glimpses
of self-acceptance & fun without others
|
Feels
authentic & connected, Whole
|
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"Depression"
|
Movement
of feelings
|
Aliveness
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