What's so WoNderful about group support?

[Charlotte Z. Cavatica]

What's so WoNderful about WoN?

WoN members speak up (not that we're biased or anything) 

"It's special to me here because WoN professes there is no "one way" to take charge of our lives. We're individuals, with different circumstances and that's understood and respected. There's no time frame, no best way and no rigid road map to follow. There's no wrong questions, no hidden agendas and no ideas that aren't worthy of contemplation. But, there's a wish for me here and it's that you'll find it safe enough, informative enough and supportive enough to keep reading and when it's time, you'll share your story."

"I have learned how vital each connection to the survivors of this kind of devastation has been for me; and I have learned how critical faith, hope, and compassion for myself are to my ascent back to a sense of worth and a life filled with joy.  I have discovered another certainty through witnessing the astounding resilience of the members who log onto these forums, looking for answers and sharing their own stories every day.  The ruins created by whatever Destructive Narcissistic Relationship any of us may encounter in our lives do not define us.  They are part of our lives now and always will be, serving as a reminder that there is more to us than anything that happens to us."

 

"The accumulated information on this website assists our healing process learning, unlearning and relearning what love means; how people ought treat one another; how to extricate ourselves from the confusion; how to help our children embrace reality and claim themselves; how to walk away from the Rock and a Hard Place. We learn to suffer through our legitimate grief while holding hands with cyber-friends. We learn how to pick up the pieces of our lives and create something beautiful without the narcissist's constant drama, chaos and distraction from our personal self-development."

"I have delved into considerable research trying to understand the mindset of narcissistic psychopaths by studying forensic psychology.  In my quest for answers, I had joined on-line forums about narcissism and psychopathy. In order to help other survivors in their healing, I joined WON.  So "Welcome to WON everybody!" You will find a group of intelligent and caring people who really understand what you're going through, along with numerous informative links."

"There in cyberspace were the survivors at various stages of recovery from the narcissistic relationship.  Those that had learned and built strength, knowledge and wisdom were able to offer validation and support to the wounded just arriving weary from the fallout of our abusive relationships. With the knowledge I have gained in recovery, I now recognize that rollercoaster ride as the cycle of abuse.  There is no timetable for healing.  Acceptance comes at our own pace."

 

[Charlotte Z. Cavatica]

Hello Friends!
 
I'm so Happy to know the work (input) that everyone does here, the support the knowledge, the experiences that are shared are going stronger than ever!  For me, in my life....this has been one of the most "Rewarding" gifts life has ever given me, find the site and learning about that word "Narcissism."  You see I had never had heard of it until I saw a counselor for the first time and we talked and the end of that first session (one hour) she said "have you ever heard of Narcissism?"  Needless, I went online to the dictionary and wala, I found ALL of YOU! 
 
It's been quite a long time but one thing that really made it possible for me to survive and learn about "Narcissism" was finding this site and the many you that helped me figure out what was happening when "x" divorced me.  That I was not alone, that there are so many who encounter this experience everyday.  How blind I was and now I've taken off those blinders to see every individual and finding out a lot about myself, to trust that INSTINCT when it talks to me to trust and beleive in myself!  THANKS TO SO MANY OF YOU! 

I would have never ever understood what I now understand and I'm till learing each day ....thank goodness!   You don't know how much you helped me, I'm forever "Grateful" to you!  Thank You! 
 
Well, it's been a LONG HAUL....4 years ago (it's hard to believe it was that long ago!) but I'm here and throughout the ordeal I've grown some, cried tons, went back and forth (too numerous times to mention!) with my thoughts of what "did I do" or "what went wrong" thoughts.....but today I've found measures of Happiness, Contentment and yes, I still have moments of sadness and sometimes anger at the x.  But, somehow I believe those are normal signs of life at least for me.  Lest I not forget and get into the same "web" again....
 
I'm looking forward to my next phase on WoN!

Anonymous

 

[Charlotte Z. Cavatica]

Knowledge is Power

written by a WoN member


 

We  Know

The people of WoN want to move forward!

There are people in this world who do not care about moving forward and have a different agenda.

You cannot always help or change them.


We are all in various stages of healing

We enjoy sharing with others who have had similar experiences.

You are allowed to disagree constructively here.


We are free to express what hurts us here.

We are free to say we are mad, sad, hurting and frightened.

We are free to laugh, giggle, joke, act silly, and make stupid jokes.

We are able to learn from others and they are free to learn from us.

   
The encouragement of our WoN family gives us hope and helps us move forward.

   
Not everyone is a narcissist, but there are many other issues and problems out there.

You/I can have bad things in our life and still be a good person.

We are not perfect. Our differences make us interesting


What we do with our lives and how to measure our success has much to do with how we treat others.

There are people who do not use tact and care when talking with others who may feel differently.

Our past has much to do with the kind of person we are, but does not have to drive us.

Strength comes to us with lessons that can hurt and adversity.


Surviving does not mean you are the strongest, but may mean you knew when to grab a hand someone held out to you.


Know your weaknesses---better than anyone else. If you know it you can change it.

Power can be good and it can be bad. It’s up to you.

If people have to tell you that you are causing them pain or that you are not kind you might not be a people person.

If you aren’t helping others you may be hurting them.

Not all advice or lessons are learned through pain or tough love.


The people of WoN want to celebrate moving forward!

Share with others!


 

anonymous