Facebook "betrayal"

[Cornfield]

Friends, you are are describing my sister.  It will never get better, however she behaves herself for a while if I ignore her.  So I have not called her since the funeral for my aunt, nor has she called me.  I have been busy working outside replacing the dead bushes and have not called anyone.

I find good purpose in this period of vacation from my family, as they don't really understand friendship with me.
My SIL put me in tears after the funeral, and she never makes any effort to be friends or to call me.

Why do I bother?

Cornfield

[Wren]

Eyes, well put.  It's exactly how I feel.  Unfortunately, it's taken far too many years to get here, but I did arrive.

[Wren]

Corn, being social-beings isn't what it's supposedly all cracked up to be, is it?  I absolutely love my time to myself.  It took me a very long time to even understand that my lil' sis wasn't real with me.  I think that's what truly hurts me the most.  When I look back now, it was all there.  I already know she'll take the oval framed photos of my great-grandparents or whatever is sentimental to me, she will get her hands on after my mother passes.  Anything I care about, she'll take.  It's better for me to just accept it now.

A little off topic, I watched a documentary on Altzheimer's and it was said that the people who had a huge network of friends and family did much better with stalling the disease.  Really?  Somehow, it was extremely surprizing to me and on the other, not at all, because we've been taught this "networking" thing throughout our entire lives.  Just look at the "Twitter" rage, do I really want to join now and have no immediate following when someone has a million?  LOL, as if I would Tweet.

My thinking on the Altzheimer's family and friends network is perhaps, people will jog their memory, etc., but I can't say that a familiar book or movie couldn't do the same thing, if not more.  The documentary actually stated that it takes a lot more work to be part of a group.  Well, duh, so is playing poker.  I wonder if they had any studies of someone who was extremely creative who also constantly dove into books, writing, music or of any art.

Perhaps, I'm being naive about it all.  Maybe they need someone around to suggest a movie, etc.  Couldn't a caretaker do this?  Their brain is deteriorating, so I really don't understand the network thing.

I see many people being extremely cruel to one another for no reason other than ego.  When I was younger, I had tons of friends, where are they now?  It's even more difficult just being a female.  My sister pretends she's ever so popular, but I know for a fact, she doesn't even love her husband.  To me, that's very sad -- to pretend.  Pretending to an entire church (the latin sessions, lol) and community.  That must become a lot of work. The last thing I ever wanted for her was to become a phony.

Corn, I'm so very happy for you these days.  You deserve everything good coming your way and you've helped so many people throughout your life.  You should not have to put up with much these days, but I know you have the wisdom to deal with things as they come.