Dear all,
This is an excellent article by Dr. Namka, author of the website,
Get Your Angries Out. Whether you are contemplating leaving or have made the decision to stay, the following excerpt makes an important point about 'staying differently'.
Hugs all,
CZBZ
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Leave or Stay Differently "...Exiting from the pain of an unproductive relationship comes down to a matter of two choices: to
leave or to stay differently. You can change whom you are with or you can change the beliefs that keep you caught in an unhealthy situation, thus changing the relationship. When you change your beliefs to healthier one such as those in an open system, you can stay within the relationship and make things better. Get the book,
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It, How to Respond to It by Patricia Evans and learn about stopping the cycle of abuse!
If you choose to stay, then you will need to learn a new set of skills to balance out that inequality of power. You will need to learn to move past the passivity in which you have been caught. As the sage said, "In this enormous room of your life, there must be an exit from pain. Your responsibility must be to pass through that door." Read my companion article on the Angries Out web site called
When You Live with an Angry Partner..."
To read the whole article, click on the title
