a girls revenge

[cheriblossom12]

i live in an apt building and have a psychopath neighbor... he is about 31 yrs old.. he yells and screams, beats his girlfriends, abuses his enabling mother.. does not work.. and has spit in my face, called me names, and tried to have my roommate and me evicted from the building because we called the police a couple times after hearing him
beating his girlfriend and her screaming "please don't kill me!"....

yesterday am.. the girlfriend was heard outside his window screaming and crying that she was pregnant with his baby and why was he f++cking other girls... the P's mother
who allows him to live there without working and abusing her, said she was calling the police.. the P screamed at the girlfriend saying, "this is the END, get out of here, this is the END.."  the girl said to
him... "the END??? you have NO idea, this is just started for you, you have no idea"..

so.. this evening i was going to the parking garage to leave for work.. and the girlfriend had hanged herself using my car to jump from.  a 15 yr old kid was cutting her down,,
she is dead.... her car sitting in the middle of the street with emergency lights flashing and her puppy crying in the locked car...

i am just BLOWN AWAY....

I have known for a long time now that something was going to happen with this P... but this is way above and beyond what i ever imagined...

i have this feeling that the P is going to kill himself next... not that i would even be sad.... hard to admit.. but truly.. this kid has ruined the peace and quiet of our building
for years... the police are always showing up here.. but we have never been able to get them kicked out of the building...

just had to share..

xoxo cheri

[Litha]

OMG! That is terrible, I'm so sorry for you, you had more than enough on your plate without this nightmare.

That poor young woman, to feel so desperate and unhappy when you are young and carrying a new life inside of you --it's heartbreaking.

I was introduced to personality disorders when a new neighbor moved in to my former neighborhood. She most likely had Borderline PD, according to a psychologist friend of mine who saw her in action. It got so bad I had to move 40 miles away to escape her, and she still managed to track me down at my new home for one last act of vandalism.

The problem is, they know exactly how far they can go while staying under the radar of law enforcement. They can even convince the police that YOU are the crazy one.

[RB22]

OMG, How awful.  Peace and prayers to all who loved her... may she finally have found peace.

I hope the authorities take him away... although I don't think her suicide will be cause for him to be taken away, would it? 

RB

[LDW]

Jeeeeeeeesus.... the world has gone mad. What a bizarre story, get yourself out of there is my advice.

[practicaljude]

I am so sorry Cheri,

How traumatic this must have been for you to watch her be cut down. I can only imagine it will feel quite haunting there for some time.  As long as his mother is there he'll be around, I would imagine.  Take care of yourself physically and do something comforting, too.
 
 
Judy

[Julia]

Cheri,

Gads what an awful story. I think she must have hoped he would feel guilty and suffer, but unfortunately we all know that isn't true. I feel so sad for her and her family. If only she had run from him instead....

Julia

[eyes_up]

Sounds more like a girls defeat really.


So much for sharing the mental cage of a psychotic person. I am not sad over it just smart.Yet it is just as horrific to me as the stuff that goes on in war. They just read the number of suicides last year in my city. Lack of mental health for all those involved.

Cheri, How in the world could you live with that kind of activity going on? I would have the cops out there on a daily basis. No fooling.

right now there is a jerk living across the street from me. Been there fore about 4 months. already two yelling and screaming ordeals. The next one I will call 911. It always happens around 2 or 3 in the morning. It is new information on a mostly quite street. I live on a street where I am sure there will eventually be a large response. This will not survive the summer if it continues.

That is the way it should be. If the community isn't responding then really every one is responsible as far as I am concerned.

So where you say sad I say outrageous. What ??? is the whole apartment complex sleep walking? If you hear it repeatedly then it is a public issue. Of course the next step is... do the authorities actually listen?


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[CZBZ]

(((Cheri))) How traumatic! Are you okay today? Sounds like your apartment complex has been terrorized by this guy for a long time. (even witnessing abuse is traumatic for other people) What can police do in domestic violence situations like that? They try, but the victim always goes back and pretty soon, people become cynical because they feel helpless.

I'd also imagine that in your situation, there was a level of fear that he would retaliate and hurt any neighbor who called the cops or threatened him in anyway. As a community, we want to help someone who is being abused but he or she has to want to help themselves. When you've witnessed an abusive relationship up-close-and-too-personal, you recognize what a complicated situation this is for everyone, including police.

When his girlfriend said, "the END??? you have NO idea, this is just started for you, you have no idea"... it does make ya wonder if she saw suicide as 'revenge'. As if he really cared. As if he'd blame himself and weep and suffer and realize how much he loved her. I'm just speculating, of course...though some people do get the idea that their suicide will punish the living. Not if the living is a sociopath though...he'll likely be relieved. One down and many, many more to go.


Hugs,
CZ

[cheriblossom12]

oh yes... cz.... this was definitely revenge suicide.... she hung herself where he would find her... in his parking garage....
he was FREAKING out.... shaking.. tears... praying...i think he will care... i think he will try or succeed in killing his own self...

and yes... we have called the police.... and he has punished us .... the police have been here so many times... he called the landlord here and told him that my daughter
was staying here ending up with us getting an eviction notice.... he spit in my face... screamed and yelled at me when i was not even the one who called...
he is mean... he is crazy...

i only hope that they will evict this P and his mom... who has enabled him.. lets him live at home in his 30s without working... lets him beat her up...she was only
worried about herself as the girl was lying there dead... she was worried that the police were going to look inside her apt.... worried that the landlord would find out.

i am going to try to get my roommate to get a petition going in the building to get them out of here... the next thing will be to find the P dead here... this is NOT a
peaceful, calm, good energy place to live.. it is ruining it for everyone here..

xo

[SydneyFireworks]

Oh Cheri - what an awful thing for you (and for the poor teenager who found her).  How sad for the P's girlfriend to feel so hopeless that she felt this was the only way out/the best revenge.

((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))
 
Syd

[Proud2B]

I can't even imagine what the poor woman must have been thinking, except I understand how being involved with an N (or P maybe), distorts one's view of reality.  It is such an extreme and irrevokable act.  Sheer desperation, maybe anger, perhaps????

What a horrible, horrible person that P sounds like!  Cherri, I hope they are evicted pronto.  Otherwise, I would seriously consider moving myself!

Take care,
Proud

[SusyP14]

This is a horrible tragic story.  Some say that it is what most psychopaths most want.  It is the ultimate proof of their insanely sick omnipotence.  That they can actually drive a person to kill themselves.  This entire story is so disturbing to read that I can not even imagine what it was like to live thru.  And I am worried about the puppy, I hope it is not with that psycho that will undoubtably soon start to abuse it since his 'regular' punching bag is now permanently unavailable.

I hope you are OK Cherri.  This is a nightmare.

[Freezer Burned]

Cheri,
I'm sorry those sad people have involved you in their bizarre drama.
As if you didn't have enough problems already.
I hope you are ok.

[cheriblossom12]

i was and am worried about the puppy too.... the police would not allow me to get the puppy out of the car... i tried..
the girls mom was on her way to visit from NY... she was in san jose arriving the next day... poor mom... she got a call from the psycho screaming that her daughter
had hung herself...
honestly... i don't know who is worse... the girl.. or the P... what she did was the ultimate form of revenge.. she must have been out of her mind.. and i wonder if
she thought he would save her.... leaving the car in the middle of the street running with emergency lights on and puppy in there was weird... she had to walk past his
window to get to garage... wonder if she said anything to him on her way back...
it is hitting me  now... at first i was just numb... felt nothing when i saw her lying there... shock maybe??
but today... i feel sad...

xo

[CZBZ]

Shock? Numb? Who wouldn't be???!!!!

If you were here, I'd hug you but since you aren't, I'll bracket you: ((((((((((Cheriblossom))))))))))


Love,
CZ

[cheriblossom12]

thanks CZ... i need lots of hugs... for lots of reasons..

xoxo

[cheriblossom12]

hi... today... i am ok...

i knew him well... and did not like him at all... nasty guy.... did not know her. but apparently she had him beat on the nasty.... its hard to feel bad for him after
the way i heard them fight constantly.. but.. i do feel a little bad... after all.. no one deserves that... UNREAL.... i have a feeling that she thought he would save her..
she might have.. and probably did say something to him through his window on her way back... maybe he did not hear it.. maybe he ignored it... who knows..

but.. i thought it so weird that she left her car running in the middle of the street with the emergency lights blinking and her puppy in there....

its just very very sad..

xoo

[RB22]

Cheri,

Sending Positive thoughts your way.... and cyber hugs.... ((((((((cheri)))))))

RB

[cheriblossom12]

yes.. i am safe... and i am fine... this guy has a lot to look at in himself... i am glad i am not him...

thanks for all the hugs..

xoxo

[cheriblossom12]

OMG!! my roommate got a call from the P's last Gf before the dead one.... apparently he called the ex Gf the very night of the hanging.. and told her that this girl
was out of her mind and he really wanted to be back with the ex..

what a PPPPPP

xo

[Onyx]

Cheri,

Sending lots of hugs.  I can't even begin to imagine what it would feel like to experience what you have, but know that you have lots of folks out here in cyberland sending you love, light and peace.

- Onyx -

[CZBZ]

"apparently he called the ex Gf the very night of the hanging.. and told her that this girl was out of her mind and he really wanted to be back with the ex" ~cheriblossom

Sounds like the Narcissist bit off more than he could chew, so he runs the other direction and finds another woman to sooth his fears. What's new? I hope his Ex told him to take a flying leap off the nearest bridge. If she's feeling sorry for him, give her our URL. A narcissist could get a lot of mileage out of a story like that!


Hugs,
CZ