Betrayed wife sues her husband’s mistress for $9 million and wins

[CZBZ]

Betrayed wife sues her husband’s mistress for $9 million and wins

March 23, 7:10 PM

by Ruth Houston

"In what could only be called the ultimate revenge, a betrayed wife sued her husband’s mistress for alienation of affection and was awarded $9 million. This is Part 1 of a 2-part article which tells how one betrayed wife got revenge on her cheating husband and his mistress, by bringing a multimillion lawsuit against the Other Woman, using an obscure law that only 7 states still have on their books...

"Part 2, entitled Suing Your Husband’s Mistress for Alienation of Affections and Other Legal Forms of Revenge ( which will be posted later tonight) tells how you can do the same thing if you live in one of the 7 states that still have this law on their books. The second article also explains 3 important things you must do before you proceed..." (Click title to read the full article)



Dear all,

Wow! I found this article listed on a blog titled, Knitting at the Guillotine and couldn't resist posting in the General Board for discussion. What do you think? Is this a good idea or a bad one? Would you like to sue the 'Other Woman' and what about the honest fact that you'll likely never see a penny of an outrageous award like Nine Million Dollars?

I had heard about suing Other Women for breaking up a marriage which makes sense in a way now that divorce has taken the No-Fault route. You start up a 'business' partnership with your spouse, investing dollars, energy and time into the marriage and all of a sudden, your co-CEO runs off to share the profits with a person who did NOT invest a dime or time in the sweatshop herself.

In the business world, a co-CEO would go to jail for absconding with the funds and breaking his contract. Not to mention breaking the 'trust'. There are stiff penalties if a contract is based on business but in the world of love, ahhhhhhhhhhh...anything goes.

But is it a good idea to hold the Other Woman responsible for HIS crimes? That's the question I'm asking myself today...is it more of the same ol' same ol', letting a man off the hook and punishing the woman instead? Why doesn't his x-wife go after HIM instead of the OW???????? Maybe because people see the wife as a scorned woman who caused problems in her marriage ever bit as much as her husband and it's far more titilatting to watch a woman get even with another woman. That makes a news story worth reading. Who really cares about another family breaking down, another wife joining the 'displaced homemaker's' soupline, another woman who wasn't able to keep a man happy at home?

Interesting situation, this story about an X-wife suing The Other Woman. She oughta be using the law to hold HIM responsible for breaking his contract with her. IMO

On the other hand, it might be a Fair Warning to 'other women' and work out as a means to protect them from a narcissistic man who uses her like an object, just the way he did his wife.


Hugs,
CZ

[RB22]

I read about this decision this morning... I will confess to not finishing it. 

But the wife had to prove that the mistress knew she was his wife, that she pursued him... caused the wife emotional distress. 

The OW was introduced to the wife by the husband... OW knew they were married, that they were a family, sleeping together, acting as husband and wife, raising a family.  Yet she continued to pursue a relationship with him.  She had the opportunity to leave the relationship, and didn't.   I don't feel for her, she betrayed the MORAL Code of conduct in my opinion.

If he was married and lied about it...she should have dumped him as soon as she found out he was married.  Licked her wounds and vow never to be taken in again by a liar.  Keeping up the game is just wrong.

Him I won't even comment on... he doesn't deserve it.  sNake.

As for me suing OW... I would love to... for one half of the money that was spent on her from our marital assets.  What I would really love to do is take him to court for breach of contract... he broke the marriage contract, but he also broke the contract we had about full financial disclosure. 

[Freezer Burned]

CZ,

Maybe she will sue her Ex also.

Maybe she went after the OW because she had some kind of proof that the OW actually pursued the hubby.

The byline of that article mentions that Ruth is the author of "Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs" - - - OMG!!! Too Much Work! Whatever happened to the idea that people should just behave themselves. I am sooo glad I am done with trying to have a relationship, that's not how I want to spend my life, reading books about how to be more suspicious of my mate in case they turn out to have no scruples. This is not the first time I have encountered the concept that part of a wife's job is to keep her husband on a short leash, but it is a horrifying reminder that having a husband is often like having another kid - except that he never grows up.

[CZBZ]

Freezerburned,

She probably DID try to sue her husband, ha! and Double-HA HA! That's how far it'll get ya in court. It's a joke.

No fault was intended to relieve the courts of on-going accusations of abuse or infidelity or some other grievance permitting divorce. Feminists promoted No Fault divorce as progress in the right direction, because a woman could divorce an abusive spouse without accusing him of abuse in court.

Instead, the courts are bogged down with custody cases going back and forth because divorce is No Fault. That means old laws giving children to the 'betrayed' spouse are no longer considered relevant to the case.

No Fault Divorce, in my understanding at least, was inspired by good intentions without foreseeing the consequences.

I'll tell ya, it was humiliating AND infuriating to have to pay my errant husband and his soul mate a monthly rental fee while living in a construction zone and finishing the house so we could sell it. But that was the law. It cost me Thirty Grand in rent and HE is the one who broke the contract! In a fair world, those two would pay ME rent because I was in an impossible situation while they are boinking around in the woods.

so we can sue the Other Woman now...well, ain't that just dandy. I can hear a narcissist now, "GREAT. The Other Woman can pay my alimony...after all, I'm worth it and she asked for it. Serves her right for sleeping with a married man." 


Hugs,
CZ

[Liberty]

Hello CZ and all - have decided to stop lurking...

Knitting at the Guillotine  is one of my blogs - it's good to see it mentioned here!

I've spent most of today wondering how I could sue the rapacious vine clinging to my husband like strangulating ivy on a street lamp...(still laughing about that one CZ!)

[CZBZ]

You are so funny, Liberty!! She's quoting an excerpt from one my blog entries: Maybe it's time to call a therapist?

Welcome to WoN! I'm so glad you decided to join us.

Hugs,
CZ

[CZBZ]

A quote by Lundy Bancroft:

"As a counselor of abusive men, I have dozens of times been in the position of interviewing a man’s former partner and then speaking with the new one. The new partner usually speaks at length about what a wicked witch the woman before her was.

I can’t tell her what I know, much as I wish I could, because of my responsibility to protect the confidentiality and safety of the former partner. All I can say is “I always recommend, whenever their are claims of emotional or physical abuse, that women talk to each other directly and not just accept the man’s denial.” ~excerpted from Knitting at the Guillotine

There's at least two kinds of women who fall for the narcissist: the one who pursues him relentlessly; and the one who is overwhelmed by his feigned interest in her---her "knight in shining armor."

The second woman (especially if she has sacrificed her marriage, her job, her dreams, her values, etc. etc. etc.) will defend the narcissist rather than admit to herself that she fell for his pretense, too. She has to believe the former wife was wicked in order to justify her behavior to herself. If she admitted, that despite what he said about his X, the woman was a kind and good person, then she is culpable of harming a good and kind person. A rather horrible thing to admit!

Even though I tend to side with women because of our socialization process, it would be foolish of me to 'idealize' all women. That in itself is a form of objectification, turning women into Madonnas and denying their full humanity along with their capacity to be narcissists themselves. Nothing has brought this home more than reading personal accounts about narcissistic mothers.

Plus, and maybe some of you have done a similar thing, I lurked TOW (The Other Woman) websites and forums. TOW competed with men's wives to show how much better they were for seducing a husband into betraying his vows. To some of these women, snagging a man was a GAME and she was willing to cheat in order to win. It was bizarre at first because I didn't want to believe women TARGETED married men with no guilt and no remorse for destroying a family.

And listen, I don't care whether that family was PERFECT or not; or whether there was enough dysfunction between a husband and wife to warrant a Jezebellion.  Sometimes, and call me Pollyanna, marital unhappiness is the beginning of individuation as a couple...we are right on the brink of maturing into ourselves as separate people. This happens to many couples at midlife and the relationship doesn't have to be abusive or anything...two people who are joined at the hip when the kids are little, begin separating into two individuals and reuniting as a companions if nothing interferes with the process.

The lack of respect nasty women have for the sanctity of marriage; their unbelievable entitlement and competition, is narcissistic. The difference I've noticed over the years is that some women feel no shame nor remorse, justifying affairs as victimless crimes. They are just as predatory as any male Romeo could ever be. I had to roll that knowledge of woman-as-predator into my awareness. She is not always an innocent victim---though in the case of the narcissistic Romeo, she certainly can be.

A few more thoughts about this article: we don't know from this brief report, how actively the OW pursued this man. Maybe the X-wife had valid reasons supporting litigation. Another thing about this article making headlines: our culture has gone overboard de-shaming sex and now people view sex as a normal activity. Kinda like playing tennis or tossing a great salad. We're becoming more and more entitled to serve our own needs without concern for our impact on others. This is the creeping narcissism social psychologists are talking about.

The idea that infidelity is a victimless crime is proving to be a lie now that betrayed women have 'voice' and can stand up for themselves. It's not like Infidelity is the result of television sets and movies...infidelity has been a male birthright for centuries. Now that women are able to speak up though, sexual entitlement is being challenged.


Hugs,
CZ