Acronyms and WoN-Lingo

[Legs]

here's my list (N-complete, n doubt)

N-abler
N-action
N-caustic
N-cephalitis
N-chantment
N-chilada
N-circled
N-clave
N-closed
N-core
N-counter
N-croaching
N-cumbered
N-cyclopedia
N-danger
N-deavors
N-demic
N-ding
N-dowment
N-ema
N-emy
N-ergy
N-gagement
N-gineer
N-gorged
N-igmatic
N-joyment
N-lighten
N-normity
N-ormous
N-rich
N-rapt
N-semble
N-snare
N-thrall
N-thusiasm
N-trepreneur
N-velop
N-vious
N-vironment
N-sult
N-capacitated
N-carnation
N-ept
N-cest
N-cessant
N-cident
N-cenerated
N-cite
N-clination



Legs, who has five months to think about the N-vironment

[LettingGo]

  I am so N-pressed w/you Legs!!!! Ask and you shall receive! 

[Legs]

I still think if I had a plain old dictionary and not that online jazz, I could think of a LOT MORE words!!!! I am wondering what people are gonna do after the blast when we all have to live under a bridge and there will be no dictionaries and no pencil sharpeners....


Legs, who is finally taking a keyboarding class and an intro to computers class and if my life is any indication, that means computers have had their heyday. Every time I like a tv show, they take it off the air. Every time I finally break down and buy something, it goes out of style last week.

[Litha]

this is addictive! ok, how about this:

if you fall in love with a narcissist they don't just break your heart, they cause cardiac N-farction.

[Legs]

I'm with you on the fart part......LMAOLMAO



Legs,

[Freezer Burned]

N-droid, a human who acts like a robot.
As opposed to an android, a robot that acts like a human. Only in fiction do androids acquire human feelings, do not waste your life hoping that the N will. N-droids were born with human feelings but have suppressed ALL of them. Ns seem to exhibit "anger" but it is merely extreme frustration, not an actual emotion.
 

[Litha]

N-droid, a human who acts like a robot.
As opposed to an android, a robot that acts like a human. Only in fiction do androids acquire human feelings, do not waste your life hoping that the N will. N-droids were born with human feelings but have suppressed ALL of them. Ns seem to exhibit "anger" but it is merely extreme frustration, not an actual emotion.
 

I love it! Instead of acquiring human emotion through education and effort, like Hollywood androids, they are born with human emotions and suppress them through self-education and effort.

[Legs]

did we do this basic one yet???

N-human (inhuman) as apposed to Human



Legs

[Litha]

did we do this basic one yet???

N-human (inhuman) as apposed to Human

Legs

which inevitably includes N-humane to describe how they treat others.

[FreeGal]

Hey Legs... you're N-telligent and N-tertaining! Love your N-credible spirit! FreeGal

[Legs]

Hey Legs... you're N-telligent and N-tertaining! Love your N-credible spirit! FreeGal

I don't know what's gonna happen when I click the send button, but I was trying to quote your tag line FreeGal......I read somewhere else that love is an action and not words and you tag echos that in such a perfect way!

Legs, who's glad a little bit of spirit made it through this far...I was really afraid at one point it was completely gone

[Legs]

Ok, I see that didn't work...I highlighted your tagline and then clicked what I thought was the quote button, but instead it quoted your post and not your tag.....what should I have done?


Legs

[FreeGal]

I find it easier to copy, paste and then bold it in your reply - that quote function has always confused me! Let me know if you need more assistance.

Love is where it's at Legs - N-ice to meet you!!

FreeGal

[FreeGal]

 p.s. if you want to put a tag line in your signature - go to My Profile (the cat image) on the Home page and you'll find the place to paste or write it in! N-joy your day Legs!

FreeGal

[CZBZ]

This is such a great thread, thank you for contributing your hilarious and to-the-point descriptions! I've been working on a list for a few years and will add your ideas to that list which will be a permanent part of our new WoN Website...soon to be released.   Our website will be a collaborative information depot  so don't worry about me stealing anybody's ideas. That's simply not my style anyway! I have more ideas than either time or energy. LOLLOL!!! 

Another N-lingo that needs to go on the link is 'The Wall of Pleasant'! Which reminds me of another description people have used: Golden Shields. As in putting on a Golden Shield to protect your heartspace from the N's arrows.

I need to dig into my computer and find my ongoing list!


Hugs,
CZ

[Legs]

Thanks for telling how how to add a tag line. I am posting now to see if it works. AND I just noticed my "title" has somehow turned into a "Survivor" which oddly enough I believe to be true finally. Just in the last couple of weeks, I began to know that there is still enough of me left to go on. I feel a little rush inside like something stirring....it's not finished yet, and may never be. I told someone else it's like a butterfly drying her wings....she flutters them open and closed and then when she's ready, she flies beautifully away!

[ILoveMyHnD]

Thanks For the N-cyclopedia......Just what Ive been lookiNg for!

I knew what Nsupply meant, just not that it was "supply"....had figured it out by context.....Good to know now!

[Freezer Burned]

N-trouble? That should have a capital T!!! = N-Trouble. Actually, using a larger font would not be overreacting.

You just *think* you've seen trouble, until you've seen N-Trouble!

[CZBZ]

Hey, Freezerburned! I read another comment from you that we can add to this growing list: The Dirty Laundry List. A list we need to make of all the N's smelly underwear that we're expected to clean for him (or her). Having a Dirty Laundry List will hold our feet to the ground when we're yearning to be with the 'soulmate'.

I remember another comment you made one day: machine-gunning. When the narcissist is at his wits end begging for your attention, he machine-guns your email account. I just loved that!  



Hugs,
CZ

One more came to mind while reading LettingGo's thread about her mother, the monster. Nicky Skye used this name for her N-Mom: Momster.

[LettingGo]

One more came to mind while reading LettingGo's thread about her mother, the monster. Nicky Skye used this name for her N-Mom: Momster.

Momster   I am going to use that one! Nicky you are an  

The Dirty Laundry List is the code to break the N-chantment Spell! It brings clarity from the confusion. It is your reason for leaving & never returning to the KON.

Did we add Litha's WoWoN (women of WoN)?

And put on a small piece of paper when you go into battle w/the N that I have WoN
I would still like you to put that on a  CZ and I get to buy the first one!

You just *think* you've seen trouble, until you've seen N-Trouble!  

Freezer Burn you make a great point! It should be with a capital T for major Trouble.

I was reading a blog today, Breaking the Narcissistic Spell. . .
http://breakingthenarcissisticspell.blogspot.com/2009/10/i-read-something-today-that-completely.html

The emotional damage is so profound that very few people can understand. As I've said many times before, I hate to know that others have gone through that very painful experience of being deceived, devalued and discarded, but it helps to know that someone understands how it feels.

And was reminded Ns have 3 acts to their N-performance, Deceived, Devalued and Discarded and that we haven't been just D&D we have been Dx3, or D3 which is the reverse of 3D which explains why we feel like we have been run over by a N-train flatten out and are devastated, hey! another important D word, so maybe our experience is 4-D = Deceived, Devalued, Discarded, and Devastated

Now we need to think of something opposite of that to explain the Healing Journey and our Self Discovery! Self-esteem, Self-worth, Self-care, -- this is a healthy Self opposed to the one that was in the KON, like the great songs says, Was Lost But Now I'm Found. I guess that sums up the N-experience, Lost n Found, hey that could = Lost the n and now I'm Found! Notice the N has shrunk to n because s/he is no longer the center of our world!

[CZBZ]

Seeing the world through N-tinted glasses

A term I have used for years to describe my relationship: The Ambush

King Dom (this term was created by Flower, our resident Sex Expert   Whenever we had to talk about BDSM, Flower came to my rescue!   )

I will make this thread 'stick' to the top of the board while we accumulate words for our N-cyclopedia! Sometimes those Sticky Threads are overlooked though.

Be sure to add any words that come to mind or that explain the N-relatioNship, the N, the eNd. ha!

I am working on the website as time allows but I think you'll all be delighted with the new site which of course, I could never do without all of you.

Also, if anyone would like 'attribution' for your LiNgo or comments, I'd be happy to do that.  


Hugs,
CZ

[LettingGo]

CZ what is BDSM?

[CZBZ]

O dear....well, BDSM is something narcissists are drawn to because it plays out power and control games through sex. You can read more about it here (brace yourself): Wikipedia

This is definitely not my speciality, knowledge about sadomasochistic sex. The topic came up a lot a few years ago, less so now but that does NOT mean it's going away anytime soon. My sense is that Domination and Submission as a lifestyle is becoming more mainstream and thus, people aren't as shocked as they were a few years back. Even television shows like Bones 'normalize' BDSM as a lifestyle choice. I mention this show because it's one my nephew and I watch together. One particular episode featured HorsePlay where people with whips dominate people on all fours, whinnying up a storm as they 'trot' around the room.   I was so grateful to have studied enough about this sexual behavior to be very clear with my nephew that it was NOT NORMAL.

Well, people tend to look at sexual perversions as a choice but in many narcissistic relationships, the partner is forced to submit to the N. He or she (mostly 'she') is doing whatever she can to save the relationship so to me, there is no FREE WILL on her part. It is 'coercion'.

I met a woman in real life whose husband got her to do the most humiliating things after he threatened to leave if she didn't satisfy his perverions. So she did. And he left anyway. Because now, at least in his eyes, she was a 'w***e' and he could no longer stand being around her.

I don't want to turn this into a Sex Thread so if anyone would like ot talk about narcissists and paraphilias, i can email flower. She's so awesome about helping women by warning them about the narcissist's intentions to DEMEAN the object-of-his-possession. You can find some of Flower's threads in our archives on The Duck Pond. She's been a good friend for years now and I'm so grateful she could step in and help people when I clearly was out of my league.

I've learned more about bondage and sadomasochism than any Doris Day Mom would ever want to know!


Hugs,
CZ

[Legs]

Oh, my! You will laugh a the timing of my post thanking you for my recent welcoming message. I am not "really" a Pony Girl, not in the BDSM sense. I had an internet friend who was heavily into that world and she explained a lot of things to me.....she said sometimes, in real life,  the submissive partner is a very powerful and in-control kind of person, responsible for perhaps a great many things, and the release of control to someone you trust (and it must be a loving and mutually beneficial relationship, but I can see how some N's would be drawn to that kind of sex play) is very stimulating and somehow comforting.

I don't understand all the fine points, but apparently they have contracts and safe words they use so the "submissive" partner basically controls the power structure. In fact, the biggest point she made to be was that very thing..the so-called submissive, is really the person with all the control. Without their "submission" the power-play cannot work, so the bottom becomes the top.*

in that type of lifestyle, the dominant is sometimes called the "top" and the submissive the "bottom".....some say they top from the bottom or bottom from the top

Legs, only want to ride a pony, not *be* a pony!

[LettingGo]

Oh BDSM use to be called S&M, so I guess people think changing the same makes it better, like changing psychopaths to sociopaths, and anti-social, evil by any other name is still evil.

the so-called submissive, is really the person with all the control. Without their "submission" the power-play cannot work, so the bottom becomes the top.  in that type of lifestyle, the dominant is sometimes called the "top" and the submissive the "bottom".....some say they top from the bottom or bottom from the top

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. . . Said the spider to the fly. Get them confused, top is bottom and bottom is top, right is wrong and wrong is right.
What a dangerous game we weave when we practice to deceive.

My sense is that Domination and Submission as a lifestyle is becoming more mainstream and thus, people aren't as shocked as they were a few years back.

This is a sad event indeed.
The Systematic Desensitization of sin and evil -- now who's plan is that?
  As moral value decreases, violence increases and humanity falls in ruin. Do we really want history to repeat itself?

“Whenever you find that you are on the side of the majority, it is time to reform. Mark Twain