"know it alls"

[Retired Cornfield]

In defense of know-it-alls, know-a-lots, and understand-a-lots, if you become an enthusiastic teacher, it goes with the job.  In my case, it took years for me to learn that I may not be the best teacher for everyone, and that some people don't want to learn what I desire to teach them.  LOL 

I am in favor of learning from experienced-a-lot kind of people, especially those who have learned from their mistakes.  Good students and good teachers, for that matter, can change their views, and really differentiate between opinions and facts which can be validated.  Having a "math mind", I have always been interested in the facts, so one of my friends calls me an "encyclopedia" kind of person.  That is different from being a know-it-all.
I am aware that many of our views are not necessarily factual, and I wince when someone on the board innocently puts out information which is not really accurate.  I am learning to let it go, however, in the interest of bonding so we can heal well as we travel our life's experiences.  My silence is not a sign that I agree, sometimes.  It is a sign that I respect where you are in your life, and I trust your search continues.  Eventually, we will get there and find the peace of mind we all seek, some faster than others.  It is not a race.  And I gave up competition long ago.

Retired Cornfield

[JennyWren]

CZ....I love the "Well, technically it`s not a full moon" story. A very good example of the way Asperger`s and Ns are poles apart in their treatment and considerations of other people. It would not cross the mind of someone with Asperger`s to control or hurt other people.

I think that you are right.....some folks would rather see and label up N people as Asperger`s because it is somehow more familiar and cuddly. My N brother-in-law is very definitely an N....and I wish I had known about NPD when his wife asked me whether I thought he may have Asperger`s. I think she was trying to put a label on the behaviour she struggles with. And maybe trying to find ways to improve her life with him. All I could do at the time was say that although some of his traits gave that outward appearance, his behaviour really didn`t fit at all. It is a minefield to try and reach her with these thoughts now, as since I am divorcing her husband`s brother, and she is a fundementalist Christian....anything I say is from Satan himself!

My knowledge of Asperger`s is really limited to my nephew (age 12), but his character is very gentle and he would not be capable of controlling anyone even if he had the inclination. People warm to him because there is an innocence about him, even when he behaves in his own little ways. Whereas my N brother-in-law does not think he has had a successful day unless he has upset at least 5 people before breakfast.


Back to Know-it-alls......those that actually DO know a lot, I think it really depends on their attitude when they show off their knowledge. There are some who are just wanting to share their joy of knowledge and understanding for the enjoyment of others and do so with respect and humility.....and then there are those who wish purely to say "Ha...look at me...I know more than YOU!"

[Scribbles]

"I was sitting outside on the veranda staring up at the beautiful, full moon and I thought about you. I miss you."

And she said, "Well, technically, it's not a full moon."

LOLOL how hysterically perfect! That pretty much puts it in a nutshell...