Ouch! I know that hurts when your attorney is no longer on your side. Been There. Unfortunately our case was sealed so I can't give details, but the other side was at fault. Our injuries were sustained from a Car Accident by their client crashing into us. Their client slammed into us, but because the client was connected to a Huge Organization our attorney got scared and turned on us, allowed the other side to intimidate us into settling out of Court, which barely covered our medical costs & the insurance did not replace the quality of car we had, because it was totaled out, we got the Blue Book value which was not enough money to replace the same quality we once had. The Judge was also intimidated by the Organization that was behind the Defendant, tied our attorneys hands, yet allowed the other side to falsly accuse us of leaving the scene of the accident and crashing our car into a wall or something to create the damage, because their client said it was not there at the scene of the crash, it was he lied. We did not see the front of his car because he automatically took charge told us to follow him and he pulled in front of us. Said because there was no broken bones or blood that we did not have to call anyone. We were so trusting because of the status this person had and what Organization he was from that we trusted him and believed him that we didn't have to call the Police (again because this person is from a
certain Organization that People completly trust that he would be telling us the Truth and would not lie about the law
. It was horrible. Our Attorney who came from a Law Firm that had a Good Rep. turned out to be a wimp. He did his cost and analysis and to him taking on the Judge, and the Organization behind the Defendant was not worth it to him, it would cost him too much Professionally and Politically. However, the difference between this attorney and the one you have is that he said to us it is
your choice to settle, or go for it knowing that if the judge awards you w/one penny less than what they offered you that you could be liable for having to pay for their court costs, but if you think we can win, which we clearly will win the case, but I am don't know how much more the Judge will award, but I am with ya and I will do my best to fight for ya. My DH and I could not afford or risk getting a settlement that would be less than what the other side offered and than have to pay all
their VERY expensive Court Costs, so out of fear and intimidation we settled. Had I done that again. I would go for it and tell the Judge the other side said that if you award us w/one penny less we have to pay for their Expensive Fees, so we are trusting you that you will make sure the Law doesn't allow the other side to re-Victimize us. That was years ago. Now DH has to take a Goliath of a Client to court because he refuses to pay for the Logo aka Corporate Identity that my DH created for him almost a year ago, yet they continue to use the Logo as if they own it. Court Battles are no fun, but they are necessary and you must make sure that everyone on your in army is fighting for ya not against ya.
You are SO right about me saying to get another attorney. Trust your instuition. Talk w/your DH and pray about it. Does this attorney know your Parents? Has he had prior contact w/them before he took on your case? Something does not feel right to me about your Attorney & Parents connection. It could be that the Attorney is N-chanted by them and since this is not a Big Money case it is no longer worth it to him to stick around and fight it out.
I would find another attorney. One that knows that little ol grannys pass out toxic cupcakes. She might give DD a Easter basket but a hidden bomb is attached for you, ILoveMyHnD (her own D). People are biased. They look at our situation aka The KoN through their own tainted glasses of how
their life is and if they had a loving Mom they can't imagine anyone else's being Toxic. Still given our own biases, a Smart & Seasoned Attorney knows how to set his/her own biases aside, believe & trust his/her client's situation is
different then his/her own personal experiences, believe what their client has said about a Toxic Parent in the disguise of a little ol cupcake providing Granny. Attorneys can offer their opinion, such as I would not take this issue of Contempt of Court to the judge, because it may look bad on you (explain how), but it is
your choice because both ex and granny are in Contempt and I will fight for what
you want. Your Attorney did not say that. He became an Enabler, and gave you the Guilt Trip. Made you feel that you were not doing the "Right Thing" by the ex or poor little granny when they are the ones who clearly are in Contempt of the Law. He clearly does not see or respect what you are going through & is fighting against you instead of for you. When you have someone fighting for you they must be on
your side. They must prepare you for the Risks involved, but that is not what he is doing. He is making you feel bad when the other side is clearly breaking the court order, that is for ex & granny's attorney to try to do to you. The most powerful tactic against one's enemy is not a frontal, side, or back assault, but an assault from
within. Think of the Trojan Horse, that is what this Attorney is for you.
Both ex and Nbirthgiver are in Contempt. A skilled Attorney can point that out even to a Judge that is N-chanted by a Easter basket & cupcake giving granny. Contempt is Contempt cupcakes or not.
The Attorney is also wrong about having you bend over backwards
for the ex. The flip side of that is, your Attorney says just keep track of all the times ex and granny are in Contempt, make a pile, that might sound good, but they other side could say and N-chant the Judge that Why should the Court take your complaints serious if you
never did. You must take the first case to court and see what that Judge says. If the Judge is N-chanted, then you can make a pile, then go back again, saying that the previous Judge let them get away w/Contempt so that is why you waited to make a pile. It is one thing if there was No Court Order Prohibiting the ex to allow granny contact w/DD and she just came over "out of the kindness of her heart". Sometimes you have to
remind the Court this is NOT a Normal Situation and she is not a Normal Person, NOT a Normal Granny, don't let her deception fool you, hence the Court Order forbidding contact. A skilled attorney can do this for ya. Judges do not like to igore another Judge's Court Order, but sometimes they need a Friendly Reminder, especially when Toxic Cupcake Granny are involved. They may just get a slap on the wrist, instead of fine or jail time, but it will be recorded that
both the ex and the toxic cupcake giving granny are in Contempt of Law and must adhere or else and the Judge will state that they will get a stronger consequence which is usually the max the law states, because it is one thing to have another Judge's orders be ignored and made a fool out of but they are going to expect that their Mercy will be appreciated by the Offenders and when it is not, the gavel comes down hard.
The Guilt Trip, the we are going to let them walk all over us and we are going to bend over backwards for them, and ESPECIALLY the statement of "He told me that he didnt think that he could do for me what I wanted done... " all that is a
Huge Red Flag 
that he CAN NOT do for you what you need done. So I guess you could say that God made him speak the Truth to you, he can't do what you need done, and he can't fight for you. He does not believe in your cause or your case, so cut him loose. What he did to you is an Old Car Salesman trick, gently pull something away and the person will reach out to grap it. Nboyfriends or girlfriend also use this Toxic Trick, maybe I am not the right person for you, maybe we should break up? They are gambeling that you will be so despirate that you will cling on to them and do what they want and continue to put up with their toxic cr@p, because they are playing into your fear of having a Toxic Boyfriend is better than No Boyfriend. They get ya jumping through their hoops and chasing after them. It is analogous to the fish jumping into the fisherman's boat. With this attorney in your boat, he is sinking it for ya. Throw him overboard! Seriously it is one thing to fight the ex and granny, but to fight your
own attorney especially when there is a Court Order, that is not right, he is your Kryptonite -- Superwoman you need to get rid of him! Keeping him is going to send you backwards. You got the Court Order, ex and granny are in Contempt and your Attorney should be taking this and moving forwards instead of ignoring it and telling you that you are a Bad Christian -- stupid jerk! This is an old familiar pattern isn't it? Those that should be on your side protecting you are turning against you. This is the pattern of the KoN, putting up with People not supporting us and turning against us in overt and covert ways, we think this is Normal because it is Familiar, but it is not. Why do the Rich get Richer? Because they have attorneys who fight for them not against them. They full support and believe their client, even when the client is clearly in the wrong, they will do their very best to make sure their Nclient looks like a Saint to the rest of the World.
Before kicking him to the curve, as your DH said that Forgiveness does not mean continued Relationship. You can also inform the "know it all" attorney that he is only 1/2 informed about Forgiving 7x70 -- which means he is completely wrong.
This concept is applied to
Normal People who have empathy, regret, remorse and repentance.
have him do his homework on Repentance -- it is a
Requirement for Forgiveness. We are told to Forgive like Christ. What is the first step to our Salvation? Repentance. Recognizing we did something wrong, we are not perfect, and turning away from it and turning towards Christ. Realizing that we are not God. We make mistakes and we need to Change, Progression not Perfection. God knows our heart and knows if we are remorseful or not. Ns can BS us but not GOD. God does NOT forgive an Unrepentant Person/Sinner and neither are we to do that either.
I hate when People, like this Attorney, twist Scripture, God's word, to their agenda. This is why we need to have Wisdom about God's Word and know what is said and what is not said. When your own attorney thinks bad of you, "Not doing the Right Thing Not being a Good Christian" that is a sign to cut him loose and find a person who understands how Ns operate, how they can come in the disguise of Easter Basket & Cupcake giving Grannys. Your Attorney has done the Cost Analysis and he is not getting anything from you, no big money to be won, he sees his Colleagues making the Big Bucks and he thinks your case is a waste of time, but he can't drop you or it looks bad on him, plus I don't know if he can legally do that, so instead he tells you he can't do what you want, doesn't support your case, and makes your relationship w/him adversarial that way you can free him up to find another case that will offer him
more money, more cost effective for him. If you had
MORE money for him, if you were paying him Beverly Hills/Hollywood Money I bet he would know how to Sing & Dance to another tune (I am thinking about the movie Chicago) where the skilled Attorney knew what to do and say to present his client in the best light. It should be very easy for your Attorney, because you didn't shoot anyone, you are not on defense, but the Ns are because they are in Contempt. Your Attorney needs to be skilled at removing the mask or at least just stick to the simple facts, they are in Contempt and are breaking the law, thus deserve No Visitation for granny or ex because he said he does not value the law, has no respect for it, has contempt for it and will ignore and disobey it and take DD around anyone he wants thus he can not be trusted to do what is in his DD best interest if he can't adhere to a very simple Court Order. The ex & granny are deceptive liars who say they respect the Law when their behavior shows that they do not by being in Contempt of it. If your Attorney did his job, at the very least they will be warned that this could happen if he continues to be in Contempt and show Blatant Disrespect for the Judges & the Law. Your Attorney does not have to put on a HUGE Performance, just state the facts and do his job.
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But it is not worth it to him, so he has no motivation to fight for ya. In the Chicago case, do you see how he fights for her? Society wanted to hang her, but her Attorney showed her in another light, any imperfections she had he ironed them out for her, reminded & kept everyone focused on who the Real Bad Person was (who she shot) and got everyone to support her and rule in her favor. Your Attorney is not doing that -- he is doing the
Opposite of that. He is making you into the Defendant, like you are doing something wrong, by showing that ex & granny are in Contempt. They are the ones who did Wrong and are in the Wrong NOT you. You are not Guilty they are. Your Attorney is being a Puppet for them who is N-chanted and fighting against you. He has turned you into the Defendant, when he should be after the Wrong doers the real Defendants and showed by focused on what they did Wrong. If you find you are defending yourself than you are losing the Battle, you need someone who will fight for and w/you to redirect and keep the focus on the Ns, redirecting is key when it comes to Ns. Do not defend anything, just redirect, by defending you create doubt in your character and give the benefit to the Ns, so don't fall for that trick and redirect. If a friend who has no law degree can do a better job at being your Attorney and fighting for ya, then that is another Huge Red Flag and you should get another Attorney.
Find someone that is going to fight for ya, who has experience w/deceptive Ns and does not get N-chanted by them. Sure I get why he can't see NF for who he is, as you know that takes time, and most Victims can't see their Enabling Parent as a N either, or their Damaged Siblings as Ns as in my case. Did NF come over w/Nbirthgiver to the ex's house? Was he physically present supporting her being in Contempt of the Law or did he stay home?
That is not the mainpoint and I know you know that, it only goes to show he is N-chanted by all 3 of the Ns. But the other two who are in Contempt -- there is no excuse for that. This attorney should be more skilled than that and again the Guilt Trip, Victim Blaming, bend over backwards, "I can't do what you want" stuff are
Huge Red Flags he is not on your side and is not going to fight for you.
Pray about what I have said, I know you feel it in your Spirit that this Attorney is not doing his job (which is bad enough), but what is even
WORSE -- he is actually fighting
against you. It is one thing to say the Judge is not going to hold up the Court Order and not going to find them in Contempt, but it is worse that he thinks you are being a Bad Person, "not doing the right thing". YUCK! You and your DH can find someone else who can do a better job. I will pray that the Great Spirit will direct your path to a very skilled attorney who will believe in your case and your cause and can get the Court to reinforce its own Law, and will have the skills to have the Judge focus on the
Law and the be N-chanted by the Ns. Since granny and ex are toxic Ns I would also think about moving and starting a New Life far away from them. Distance is great because it prevents contact, plus it would be fantastic to have a fresh new start. I understand that it is hard in this Depression we are all trying to get through, but I would pray about it. It would be worth it to be Free from these Ns. If ex wasn't around, then granny can't use him to get to DD. Creating Distance is the best Offense you can have against Ns.
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