In the earlier days of our marriage, NH changed jobs and was thrown into the social whirl of a large corporate. When I think back, this was the first time I really noticed his attention seeking with other women. He just thrived on it! Their Christmas functions were a really big deal and I did not cope well watching him schmooze and ingratiate himself, and at the second one I drank way too much wine for a small person with a low tolerance (not particularly pretty), and I was the one who had the hissy fit, end result that I was 'banned' from ever attending another as he had been so mortified at my abysmal behaviour ....
. Okay, so that really helped build trust and confidence, right? Those were the pre understanding N days and of course I blamed myself for being so badly behaved, how could I show NH up like that? Who knows, someone might have twigged to what a self indulgent, narcissistic, pretentious, self-important (shall I go on here?) b**stard he actually was, huh??
Anyway, fast forward a few years to a local bar where we get talking with an interesting man. Interesting man obviously sees there is something amiss between NH and I and starts to flirt outrageously with me in front of NH. Again, I have had a half glass of chardonnay more than is good for me ... so I guess I buy into the flattery. Until, what's that? A caress of my butt from interesting man, observed by NH who is going several shades of purple but makes no move toward me. I mouth "HELP" at him cos even at my advanced age (haha) I am not quite sure what to do with this (say "unhand me, you cad!! and punch interesting man in the mouth?). But NH stays right where he is and watches. Afterwards he says "WELL you certainly seemed to be enjoying THAT didn't YOU?". I said, well I certainly didn't invite it but perhaps he noticed how indifferent you are towards me??? This is followed by hard-out N hissy fit of unpreviously seen proportions, much frothing at the mouth etc as to my wanton sluttiness (again haha). Seems he can flirt with whomever he so wishes, right in front of me but hey, woe betide me if I do the same? I said he could have made a statement about our marriage by coming and standing beside me, a little gesture of yes, we are together and we're okay (hollow laugh). But guess what, NH says "you wanted me to make a scene - that guy was an ex English rugby league player, did you see how MUCH BIGGER HE WAS THAN ME??"
Ah, yes, N's live by one set of rules which only apply to them. And they are actually weak and cowardly. And what's more, they show THEMSELVES up without even realising they have done it. I should have done myself a favour and thrown myself right at interesting man, although I suspect he was probably tarred with the same N brush and it would have all ended in tears ... meanwhile back in the present day, I still get to hear about how Richard (otherwise known as interesting man) had the cheek of Old Nick to even approach let alone 'tweak the arse (N's words) of N's property (I mean wife) ....
Total Members: 
Topic: Possessive NHs spectacular hissy-fit....a stroll down memory lane! (Read 1507 times)
