So N is on a 5 day trip, with a group of all guys, to Costa Rico. It's his business partners 40th birthday bash where they rented this house, over 10,000 square feet, have a chef, a driver, you get it. My attorney informed me, as I gave yet another example of how he is lying about his monthly income and more. In any event, he proceeded to tell me that prostitution is legal there and what an all round party area it is and that although, if going with a date or as a family, that may not be what you're seeking but, with a group of all men for a birthday, it's clear they are there for the party scene. Of course, to my knowledge, all the men in the group are married, I suppose here on WON, we know that doesn't mean that you'd think.
So I considered doing the pi route....not that I care if he is with 100 women at one time, I do not. My hope would be aimed toward his drinking since he's court ordered to abstain. When he doesn't, and he won't, it will be a total of 3 proof positive times, within the past 4 weeks, he's done so and done so well. However, I always doubt myself when I do this, seeing how there is money involved (my own) that he'll lay low and disappoint me. I think 3 times in a row, so close together, is enough to prove he hasn't stopped and it isn't just a one time mess up. Plus, who knows what type of lie he told his probation officer as to why he wouldn't be able to report if his number is called, if he told him anything at all. If he didn't and his number is called, he'll have to make up something as to why he didn't show up and I doubt he'll say he was at a party fest. So lets hope, he paints it up, in alcoholic egg style, playing Mr. Millionaire come drink 3.
But the next part of this post is about something else. When my attorney told me about prostitution being legal there, I thought right away, "I'm sure he's going to party but no, he wouldn't do that, can't see it." Yet, just because I can't see it doesn't mean it isn't so. I recall on one of his Vegas trips, him telling me about his father having three of them in their suite until all hours keep9ing them up while they were trying to sleep. I was appalled and he laughed in a way that agreed. Looking back, I'm laughing because well.....that is N style, put it on someone else. I laughed at how I thought, "no, he wouldn't do that...." How the heck would I know what he would or wouldn't do? PI told me although it is legal, underage, it is not. N used to make jokes about younger girls.....this is just off the top of my head. I shudder at the thought and certainly hope not because then, I'd seriously worry about my own D, whom I've spoke of here that I find his affection towards his kids to be odd and uncomfortable by anything I've ever seen. Not implying he's ever done anything. I think this is more about faking....combined with not having any boundaries. To him, he's faking father affection without awareness it changes and grows as a child does and is different from that of an intimate partner. However, if he engaged in sexual activity with a girl underage, heck...even 18 of legal age, I'd worry that the potential is bigger than I ever thought. I remember one time, he was drunk and our d was 3, resting her head on my shoulder as I rocked her.....N leaned down to kiss me and then kiss my neck but, he ended up with his tongue in our d's ear (yes, is gross and sounds gross to type)....he didn't pull away like, "whoops...." he didn't notice. Or so this is how it appeared to me due to his drunken stoop-er. Point being, with alcohol involved, I'd worry about it heavily.
That's all hypothetical....maybe he won't engage in that activity at all. And I'd certainly be shocked if he did....but I have no idea why. Clearly, one thing I've learned is, I've no idea what he is capable of and I'm certain I do not know that half of it....that, I think I can count on.
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