I don't know if this is NPD related but my husband never confronts anyone or stands up for himself when it comes to work situations and actually I think some of this stuff helped ruin his career. I just do not get it. Why just walk away in silence from everyone instead of saying Hey wait a minute, quit putting me down! I think this may be another maybe unrelated to NPD problem. He told me "You just want to tilt at windmills" and other crap like that.
He just got more cut backs from main freelance. Things are looking tougher and tougher. I am exhausted and fighting off another junk debt dealer pro se. We do not have the money to declare bankruptcy and I got the other case dismissed though they could come back for one year.
He told me some guy called one freelance boss and said he was wearing sweat pants at a meeting and was late. I know he wasnt wearing sweat pants, do not know about the lateness. I said tell him that, why not stand up for yourself? But he never does. I hear about how angry he is, etc, but he just walks away from everyone. These people were already cutting down his work, it could be economic. I seen the completed projects so know he was working hard for them. I do think some of his personality problems definitely have contributed. He doesn't fight with people but maybe they see the underlying NPD stuff.
I am so tired of living on the edge. It's been this way for 7 years. Actually all of this may collapse which is scary for someone disabled like me. I have been paying basic bills, but didn't even pay any of my medical bills this month. I m disabled and help him with ebay. But feel unable to concentrate on any other money making ventures and there are so few right now. Everyojne tells me goofy stuff like sell your art, and unrealistic stuff like that. I already sell things on occasion. It just seems like empty advice.
Then I see the wealthy N family members on Facebook taking about their vacations and shopping sprees. We are scrounging even for food. Im fighting creditors so they do not take the car away, which is only worth about 3,000 dollars and running funny with a wobble I can't afford to get fixed. Neither of us can walk well so we would be screwed with no car.
He announced to me while I was in the bathroom this morning, "I am a bum". I think he did work hard, but he can't function in the workplace. They just all run him over and throw him overboard. I still am angry he did not get disability for his physical problems alone.
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